PNINA (Pearl) of Wisdom

Korean Beef Recipe

Recently I was looking for something quick and simple to make my hubby and I for dinner and came across this Korean Beef recipe. It was absolutley delicious and I would recommend this dish as a go to for a quick meal for the kids as well.

Ingredients

1 Tbsp Sesame Oil

1 pound of ground beef

3 cloves of garlic

1/4 cup of Brown sugar

1/4 cup of Soy Sauce (can use low sodium if you want)

1/2 teaspoon fresh minced ginger

1/2 tsp crushed red pepper flakes

Salt and Pepper to taste

1/2 cup sliced green onions

Instructions

  1. Brown ground beef in the sesame oil and add garlic toward the end of browning. Drain the fat.
  2. Add brown sugar, soy sauce, ginger, salt, pepper. Simmer for a few minutes to blend the flavors. Serve over steam rice and top with green onions.

I adjusted the recipe by omitting the sesame oil and red pepper flakes. I also substituted minced garlic for the fresh garlic and I used ginger powder. I added garlic and onion powder and a little cumin. To top it off, I placed an egg over easy on top; for me this made the dish. If your looking for a vegetable, I think this dish would pair well with steam broccoli either incorporated in the dish or on the side as well as red bell peppers.

I hope you enjoy and share if you decide to try this recipe, Bon Appetite!

Korean Beef with Egg over easy on top!

Declare and Decree

Ok my fellow Queens and Princesses, find your mirror and say it with me.

DECLARE AND DECREE

I Am…..

  1. Who God says I am.
  2. Very well cared for.
  3. Not my Past or the things and circumstances that have hurt me in the past.
  4. The Light of a very Bright Future.
  5. Not Fragile or Weak, but I’m Delicate and should be handled with Care.
  6. Whole, and in Good Health.
  7. Not Indecisive, but Cautious and Measured: There’s a difference 🙂
  8. Unique, Divine and One of a Kind.
  9. Full and in need of Nothing!
  10. The Best thing that has “Ever” happened to ME, my family and those around me.

I encourage you to try making personal declarations or confessions a part of your everyday routine. Write them on a sticky note, note card or white board and place it somewhere you can easily see it to help encourage and motivate you. Repeat them to yourself every morning or at night before bed. During this COVID-19 pandemic, I’ve been declaring that “I have everything I need.” What are you Declaring and Decreeing?

TOP 10 THINGS TO DO IN 2020

Hello friends and Happy New Year to you. Below is my list of 10 things you should consider going into year 2020. May you have a Happy, Healthy and Prosperous year!

IN 2020….

  1. Don’t be afraid to call a “Thing” a “Thing.” In the words of Shabba Ranks, “false pretender, stop pretending.” At a certain age, it’s just time out for pretending and ignoring red flags, inappropriate behaviors and such. If someone is disrespectful to you, call them out on it. If a friend/significant other is taking more from the relationship/friendship than what they are giving and it seems a bit one-sided; call that person out on it. Don’t suffer in silence, it will only end badly.
  2. Make it a habit to look for opportunities to give back this year. Proverbs 11:25 “A liberal soul shall be made Fat!”
  3. Take a hiatus from Social Media. Challenge your family members and friends to do the same. “Having a clear mind and a clear space allows you to think and act with purpose” (Erika Oppenheimer).
  4. Know that it is not the problem that is the problem. It is your reaction to the problem that is the problem. So stop allowing the problem to rule and reign supreme in your life and follow instructions given in #5 below.
  5. When life throws you a curve ball…Go get your BAT! No explanation needed.
  6. Don’t wait or procrastinate, start today! Take a step, any step. your future self will Thank You later.
  7. Speak it! Decree it! Declare it! All things begin with a thought. Words matter and words have power. Turn those thoughts into words and set them free into the atmosphere.
  8. Stand Strong! It may not happen over night, but you will bear fruit in “your” season. Question: What have you planted though? Aha!
  9. “Do something today that your future self will thank you for” (Patrick Flaney).
  10. “Consider yourself a pencil in the hands of GOD” (Mother Theresa). Give God control and let “Him” write your story in 2020.

PNINA of Wisdom, The Kings Daughter!

IT HAPPENED AGAIN!

IT HAPPENED AGAIN: Another School Shooting!

The conversation at my dinner table tonight with my 2 children was surrounded around the school shooting in Santa Clarita, California. The scariest thing for me is that in reality….this could happen at any one of their schools tomorrow or ANY day. My husband and I could literally kissed them goodbye, say I love you as we do every morning and they could never come back to us after school. As a new parent, this type of news hits differently than it did before I became a mom with school age children. I’m at a lost for words because honestly I don’t know how to protect my kids from this.

What I do try to do, is teach my kids NOW about Faith, Trusting in God and Trusting in his word. I give my kids a new scripture on a note card to remember once a week. I ask them to keep it in their book bags for encouragement. When their school day gets a little rough, they can pull it out, read it and be encouraged. We discuss the scriptures (usually at dinner time) and reflect on how they can apply it to their everyday life. I then follow up with them at the end of the week in which they quote the scripture and tell me what it means to them personally.

Its important to me that they not only know the word, but also know how to apply it and draw from it when they need it. That God is always present and cares about their day, their problems, accomplishments and failures. Coming into a new family, I thought my children ( who are technically my step-children) would resist this. The total opposite has happened. They embrace it and will sometimes ask for their new scripture before I can give it to them.

As I reflect on our conversation tonight: I will continue to pray and plead the blood of Jesus over their lives. This weeks scripture will definitely be about protection and I will pin it permanently into their book bags. If any danger comes their way, not only can they call us; but they will have the full assurance that God is also with them. Folks, It’s not to soon to teach your kids about faith.

Be Encouraged!

TKD

Father, Be a Navigation System in my Life!


Today I was reminded that God will never give me a vision without sending provision. If he has called me to do something; then he will supply everything I need to get the job done successfully. Whether it be finances, supplies or man power: My God is able to make all grace abound towards me.

Because of this, I have the full assurance that my path is not my own…but his. When I’m in the drivers seat, sometimes I can forget all about God’s will for me. “My” desires are in the forefront. Yet, I’m so thankfuk for my father, the true GPS of my life. He will always guide me and place me on the correct path when I’m lost! For that, I am eternally grateful.

TKD

MY FIRST SEAFOOD BOIL!

My First Seafood Boil!

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Tonight I decided to make a seafood boil for my husband who had never tasted one before.  This was my first stab at it and I must say it was absolutely delicious. I saw many recipes on Pinterest, but in the end I just decided to go with my gut. See the instructions below on how I made this dish for the two of us.

Ingredients

  • 2.5 pounds of snow crab legs (2 lbs was the equivalent of about 5 cluster. I used about 3 clusters for the two of us)
  • 1/2 pound of shrimp
  • 1 smoke Sausage link (cut into pieces)
  • 6 small red potatoes (cut in quarters)
  • 2 corn on the cobb (cut in pieces)
  • Old bay seasoning (season as desired)
  • Parsley (as desired)
  • 1 Lemon (cut into wedges)
  • 1/2 cup melted butter
  • 3 garlic cloves (chopped)

Cooking instructions

  1. Preheat oven at 350 degrees.
  2. In a sauce pan melt butter, fresh garlic, parsley  1tsp of lemon juice and old bay seasoning together.
  3. Wash and cut red potatoes in quarters.
  4. Cut up smoke sausage.
  5. Cut up corn on the Cobb as desired or leave whole.
  6. Next I decided to boil the potatoes, sausage and corn for 10 minutes adding some old bay seasoning to the water.  The potatoes are not completely cooked but they will be once placed in the oven. I added the shrimp to the pot the last five minutes. Once it has finished boiling drain the water off.
  7. In a large baking pan layer snow crab legs first and then pour the shrimp, potatoes, corn and sausage on top.
  8. Pour sauce pan of melted butter mixture on top.
  9. Top with lemon wedges.
  10. Bake for 20 minutes at 350 (I covered the pan with aluminum foil).

And there you have it!

TKD

 

Ma Salama (Good Bye)Doha!

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A little over four weeks ago I said goodbye to the sand box that is Doha, Qatar and headed back home to the USA.  I’ve had some reflection on my journey over the past 4 years and wanted to share 3 lessons I learned from my Doha experience.

#1 Nothing is ever what it seems.

Have you ever had one idea in your head, then started to brainstorm on it and have it expand so much that you hardly recognize the original idea? Or maybe you went to Walmart or Carre Four with the task of purchasing that “one thing” but some how you ended up with like 20 items in your cart. Yes! This completely describes my Doha experience over the last 4 years.   I came to Doha with one purpose in mind and ended up doing so much more than what I originally intended.  Yet, I can truly say that I am more aware, openminded and came out of it a stronger person.

#2 “Traveling is the Antidote to Ignorance” (Trevor Noah).

In Trevor Noah’s comedy special “Afraid of the Dark”, he says something that is very profound.  He states that “Traveling is the Antidote to Ignorance.” I don’t think Trevor means ignorance in a derogatory sense, but ignorance simply meaning the “lack of knowledge or information” about the world (www.dictionary.com).  This lack of knowledge is a key element that separates us as a society; even though in reality we all have so much in common no matter where we live or come from.

I would like to describe it as a deficit of the senses.  For instance, right now close your eyes and imagine a palate that has never tasted your favorite dish. Eyes that have never seen in color, but only in black and white.  Ears that have never heard the ocean waves or the laughter of a child. Can you imagine everything you would be missing?  Your senses would be dull, sealed in a plastic package and yearning to be unpacked and awakened.

If you are relying solely on the local/national news, documentaries and social media to educate you on what you know and understand to be true about various cultures, people, and just for overall awareness; then you just might have a sensory deficit in relation to the world, people, and countries that surround you.  From first hand experience, I would say that nothing (no news cast, documentary, book, photo, or online video) will ever beat the personal experience of setting your foot on foreign soil, tasting exquisite cuisines, or communing with our brethren from various cultures and countries.

So deny your senses no more. Get out and see the world!

#3 Nothings beats the good company of like minded people…but don’t forsake those with opposing views.

I say it all the time and I don’t mind beating this horse to Death!  This is how strongly I believe in this principle. I have yet to find anything that can beat the company of like minded people who are striving toward a similar purpose and goal. During my time in Doha, I cultivated life long friendships and relationships with people from various parts of the world.  Friends and associates who all came together to encourage and support one another. This was my Doha experience and it was a major contributor to my success  and growth while I was there.

What are the benefits of being surrounded by like minded people? When you are surrounded with people with similar goals and purpose, you will find that you fill in the gaps for one another.  Your circle will become one of a pseudo family, not of strife and competition; although you still challenge one another and have healthy debates.  This circle is resourceful and one of networking.  You can always count on the fact that someone in this circle has a resource that can help you with whatever it is your in need  and to push you towards success.

However, let me say this:  I also learned that while it is important to be surrounded by like minded people: It is also imperative to know that we can learn just as much from those with opposing views or different goals than our own.  Communing with people who have opposing views than our own provides us with balance, challenges our thinking and pushes us to think outside the box.  These are the types of interactions that can propel us towards growth and away from the status quo: So don’t shy away from a debate, or an opposing point of view.  Challenge your mind!

I hope you enjoyed this post and please feel free to share and comment.

Living, Loving and Conquering This Life One Day at a Time!

TKD

My Year of “NO!”

Now that 2017 has come to a close, I’ve been reflecting on it and I am so happy with my growth.  The beginning of my 2017 started out rough, but it brought about several revelations. Hence, I decided early on that I would name 2017 “My Year of NO!”

The Revelation: I had a serious problem with “Boundaries” or the lack of having actual boundaries for the people in my life.

The Task:  When 2017 approached, I had an immediate need to establish my boundaries quickly and learn that saying “NO” was not a bad thing.  Without defined boundaries, people were free to come and go and do as they pleased in my life.

Yes, it’s true, saying “NO” to someone you love doesn’t always make you or the other person feel good, but on the other hand, it didn’t make “me” feel good to say yes when I really didn’t want to either.

As a natural giver, I realized that over extending myself to meet the needs of others was a constant in my life.  This could be seen throughout my personal and professional relationships. It was clear that I had a problem with the word NO!  Especially to the people that mattered to me the most.  What was also clear, was that I allowed the feelings and needs of others to come before my own. So much to the point that I didn’t really know who or what I really wanted at times. I was the sacrificial lamb.

Self-Reflection Time

  Ask yourself the questions below:

  1. Do you have a problem with saying NO?
  2. Do you have defined boundaries for the people who may enter into your life and for those who remain in it as well?
  3. Do you say yes to your family, friends or coworkers even though you want to say NO out of feelings of guilt?

If you answered yes to these questions, I won’t bore you with the details of my process.  Instead, let me give you three advantages of establishing boundaries and utilizes the word NO that can change your life.  (See advantages below)

Freedom

The feeling you get when you say NO to something you don’t want to do is astounding.  I mean really, it is a liberating feeling.  Drop that weight honey and you will be free… I guarantee it!

Peace

When you establish your boundaries, and learn how to say NO, your mind will be at peace.  OK..OK… not immediately.  It takes practice LOL!  A lot of practice, but I promise the more you practice the easier those words will just flow from your lips.

Accountability

Setting boundaries and saying NO, allows you to put the accountability where it belongs.  Don’t let someone hold you or your feelings hostage. Put the accountability for “their” situation and their feelings where it belongs… with Them!  Learn to say this….“Your poor planning is not my emergency!” Ok, maybe not verbatim, but you get my drift here. Don’t take on other people’s problems. It’s like the little girl on Facebook that says, “Worry about yourself!” Try it and after a while you will experience advantages #1 & #2. I promise this is not selfishness, but self-preservation.

Resources

I’m not going to lie to you, this is a process that takes time, but it is worth it.  If you are looking for resources on how to establish boundaries, or if you’re not sure that you even have an issue with boundaries.  Check out the book by Henry Cloud and John Townsend entitled “Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life.”  This is a Christian book, but a good read for anyone really. I would also recommend a life coach or a counselor.  I have one and she is phenomenal and has made all the difference in this area of my life.

Happy New YOU and Happy New Year!!! 

I’m Pregnant!!!

I am Pregnant with the promises of GOD!  He told me so.  He redistributed by focus from the natural child I desire to have, to the life that is already growing inside of me in many forms.  I’m pregnant with businesses, a nonprofit organization, a novel and I’m sure that I will conceive many more babies in the future.

I am reminded that God’s timing is always perfect.  He knows what he is doing in my life and in him I will always put my trust.

Although I desire a child of my own,  my time has not yet come.  A Delay however, is not a Denial.  My father quietly said to me, “What about the other babies I’ve given you? Don’t forsake those children! You must be a mother and nurture those ideas I’ve put deep inside  your belly as well… so that you will be ready at the appointed time to give birth!!”

I am pregnant with a the promises of God.  EDD (Estimated Date of Delivery) to be determined…

But this is what I do know:

“Behold, he will do something in “me” at which both ears of everyone who hears it will tingle.”  1 Samuel 3:11

WHAT ARE YOU CARRYING INSIDE OF YOU!?!

No Fear, No Limits: Living a Life Without Regrets!!

Is there something that you’ve always wanted to do but never got around to it? Maybe you just haven’t built up the courage or nerve to try it yet.  Is it a new business? Would you like to travel to an exotic destination?  Buy your first home? Maybe you dream of parasailing or even skydiving?  Let me ask you a question…What’s holding you back? Is it Fear, Money, Time?

Let me encourage you to step out of your comfort zone and turn those possibilities into something real.  Into something that’s tangible gratifying and satisfying.  Hey, don’t just spend your life sitting on the sidelines of “I Wish I Could Avenue.”   I know you’ve all heard this saying before, but life is really too short not to live out your dreams and ambitions. As the good book so eloquently puts it: “The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life” (John10:10 NLT).

Here are some simple steps that can help you conquer your fears, live out your dreams and start putting some check marks on that bucket list of yours.  I hope this helps someone.

  1. Forget the “Naysayers”

You don’t need anyone’s permission to do what God has placed on your heart. In fact, the sooner you realize that you all are called to do something that is unique and specific to who you are as an individual, the better off you will be.  Never look for another person to validate what’s on your mind, in your heart and soul. After the all, the vision was given to you, so don’t seek the answers from naysayers, go to the source.

  1. Do something…Anything

Make the first step today.  Grab a notebook, do some brainstorming, conduct some research, read various books on the topic and by all means, decrease your social media and TV time.  Note, that none of the actions mentioned here requires any money, but is does require focus and dedicated time.  It’s important to know that no step is too small.  Each action you take gets you one step closer to achieving your goal.  Hey, you have to start somewhere!

  1. Don’t share your dreams with everyone

In other words: “Don’t waste what is holy on people who are unholy. Don’t throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you (Matthew 7:6, NLT). Do I need to explain any further? If you can’t help me fulfill it, provide me with valuable resources, or some encouragement; Nope, I’m not sharing an ounce of anything with you.  I hate Destiny Distractors.  Those people who are in your life who really have no value, but to tell you how you can’t, how expensive it is, and how crazy your idea maybe.  Please, don’t cast your pearls upon swine!  They don’t know what to do with such precious things.

  1. Find an accountability partner

Unlike the Destiny Distractor, this is the person who you know is going to encourage and support you.  In other words, if God said it, this friend will trust, agree and believe with you hands down!  Their genuinely happy to see good things happen to and for you. You’ll recognize this person as they are the ones sending you articles and connects to help you get that business started.  He/she is the friend that is going to hold you accountable. They will stop you from buying that Channel bag or fellas that expensive watch.  He/ she is the friend that is going to pick you up when you hear the many NO’s.  Your accountability partner is always going to stand by you with words of encouragement but also give you the truth as well.

  1. Look around you

Now that you have an Accountability Partner, and you got rid of your Naysayers and Destiny Distractors, you need to do a little more inventory. Who’s surrounding you?  If you can look around and everyone in your circle is doing what you’re doing, it may be time for some upgrades.  The people in our lives should challenge us, inspire us, and stretch us. You don’t have to get rid of your friends, but there is a saying that says: “Make new friends, but keep the old ones.  One is Silver and the other is Gold.”  Look at the change in your purse, are they all Silver?  You have to mix it up in order to get a new perspectives on life and its possibilities.

  1. Get your finances in order

Whatever it is you desire to do, whether it is to start a new business, or to travel; I’m sure it’s going to take some coins. Therefore, take some time and get your finances in order.  For instance, repair your credit, put yourself on a budget, or start a travel fund.  Honestly, I live by my budget.  I literally have a budget for everything I spend money on (I’ll do a blog on finances pretty soon). People often want to know how I travel as often as I do…simple, I budget. I know where my money is going before it even comes to me.  So, start budgeting and saving.

  1. Last, don’t be afraid to FAIL!

I took a leadership class with GE last year and I learned a valuable lesson.  FAIL equals: First Attempt In Learning! That little acronym set me free…. for real.  Don’t be afraid to FAIL guys.  There’s a learning curve to everything.  Fear is a crippling thing that can keep you down and on the sidelines.  Be a risk taker.  It’s better to first weigh your options and take the risk than to live in a constant state of mind of “I wonder what if.”  So, just go for it!

I hope this encourages someone to step out on Faith.

No Fear, No Limits: Living a Life Without Regrets,

TKD (The Kings Daughter)