Is there something that you’ve always wanted to do but never got around to it? Maybe you just haven’t built up the courage or nerve to try it yet. Is it a new business? Would you like to travel to an exotic destination? Buy your first home? Maybe you dream of parasailing or even skydiving? Let me ask you a question…What’s holding you back? Is it Fear, Money, Time?
Let me encourage you to step out of your comfort zone and turn those possibilities into something real. Into something that’s tangible gratifying and satisfying. Hey, don’t just spend your life sitting on the sidelines of “I Wish I Could Avenue.” I know you’ve all heard this saying before, but life is really too short not to live out your dreams and ambitions. As the good book so eloquently puts it: “The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life” (John10:10 NLT).
Here are some simple steps that can help you conquer your fears, live out your dreams and start putting some check marks on that bucket list of yours. I hope this helps someone.
- Forget the “Naysayers”
You don’t need anyone’s permission to do what God has placed on your heart. In fact, the sooner you realize that you all are called to do something that is unique and specific to who you are as an individual, the better off you will be. Never look for another person to validate what’s on your mind, in your heart and soul. After the all, the vision was given to you, so don’t seek the answers from naysayers, go to the source.
- Do something…Anything
Make the first step today. Grab a notebook, do some brainstorming, conduct some research, read various books on the topic and by all means, decrease your social media and TV time. Note, that none of the actions mentioned here requires any money, but is does require focus and dedicated time. It’s important to know that no step is too small. Each action you take gets you one step closer to achieving your goal. Hey, you have to start somewhere!
- Don’t share your dreams with everyone
In other words: “Don’t waste what is holy on people who are unholy. Don’t throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you (Matthew 7:6, NLT). Do I need to explain any further? If you can’t help me fulfill it, provide me with valuable resources, or some encouragement; Nope, I’m not sharing an ounce of anything with you. I hate Destiny Distractors. Those people who are in your life who really have no value, but to tell you how you can’t, how expensive it is, and how crazy your idea maybe. Please, don’t cast your pearls upon swine! They don’t know what to do with such precious things.
- Find an accountability partner
Unlike the Destiny Distractor, this is the person who you know is going to encourage and support you. In other words, if God said it, this friend will trust, agree and believe with you hands down! Their genuinely happy to see good things happen to and for you. You’ll recognize this person as they are the ones sending you articles and connects to help you get that business started. He/she is the friend that is going to hold you accountable. They will stop you from buying that Channel bag or fellas that expensive watch. He/ she is the friend that is going to pick you up when you hear the many NO’s. Your accountability partner is always going to stand by you with words of encouragement but also give you the truth as well.
- Look around you
Now that you have an Accountability Partner, and you got rid of your Naysayers and Destiny Distractors, you need to do a little more inventory. Who’s surrounding you? If you can look around and everyone in your circle is doing what you’re doing, it may be time for some upgrades. The people in our lives should challenge us, inspire us, and stretch us. You don’t have to get rid of your friends, but there is a saying that says: “Make new friends, but keep the old ones. One is Silver and the other is Gold.” Look at the change in your purse, are they all Silver? You have to mix it up in order to get a new perspectives on life and its possibilities.
- Get your finances in order
Whatever it is you desire to do, whether it is to start a new business, or to travel; I’m sure it’s going to take some coins. Therefore, take some time and get your finances in order. For instance, repair your credit, put yourself on a budget, or start a travel fund. Honestly, I live by my budget. I literally have a budget for everything I spend money on (I’ll do a blog on finances pretty soon). People often want to know how I travel as often as I do…simple, I budget. I know where my money is going before it even comes to me. So, start budgeting and saving.
- Last, don’t be afraid to FAIL!
I took a leadership class with GE last year and I learned a valuable lesson. FAIL equals: First Attempt In Learning! That little acronym set me free…. for real. Don’t be afraid to FAIL guys. There’s a learning curve to everything. Fear is a crippling thing that can keep you down and on the sidelines. Be a risk taker. It’s better to first weigh your options and take the risk than to live in a constant state of mind of “I wonder what if.” So, just go for it!
I hope this encourages someone to step out on Faith.
No Fear, No Limits: Living a Life Without Regrets,
TKD (The Kings Daughter)